“To be honest, I don’t really date women with kids, but we can have fun.”
EW. Get ready for a rant. I know, I know, another post on dating a single mom. Why it’s great, why it’s only for dudes with their lives together, yadda yadda. But really, this is important.
You don’t date single moms? GREAT! I don’t date little boys, so it looks like you never stood a chance anyways.
Dating a single mom is a privilege and you should feel honored that she is giving you one second of her time to even consider dating you. Because single moms are busy as hell, single moms don’t have time to waste screwing around and playing games.
Contrary to what many people seem to believe, we don’t need you to be our child’s father, or to come and rescue us from a life of stress and poverty (and if you think that’s the life we’re living, then you’re judgment is a little skewed in the first place.) All we want is to date you, to get to know you and spend some quality time with you. We’re not looking for a knight in shining armor to come and sweep us off our feet into a fairytale life.
We’re pretty level headed, actually. We have to be, because we have way too much shit to deal with in a typical day. If our head wasn’t screwed on straight, our world would burn to the ground quite literally.
So when you say, “I don’t date women with kids,” particularly when you approach us, you look like a damn fool. And then if you follow that statement up with, “but we can have fun,” the only fun we’re ever going to have is me laughing in your face at how stupid you are. And you might not find that very fun.
So please, if this is your view of women with kids, then please YOU should not date single moms. YOU should not even approach single moms. We are not a fetish, we are busy, amazing, caring women and far too grown for you and your games.