I am saddened and angered by the amount of mommy bullying that I have come across lately. The mom on mom bashing is at an all-time high and I’m not entirely sure why. There are so many movements for equality happening in the world right now: #blacklivesmatter, FCKH8, and more; and yet this concept of treating people with respect regardless of their beliefs or backgrounds is still so out of reach. The mommy community is no safe haven from this kind of tormenting either. Our children are learning about the “Golden Rule” in their classrooms and at their extra curricular activities, but how can we expect them to practice this rule if we, their mothers, can’t follow it?
Breastfeeding moms, formula feeding moms, pumping moms, cosleeping moms, working moms, stay at home moms, work from home moms, helicopter moms, moms with nannies, married moms, adoptive moms, lesbian moms, single moms. Regardless of the word or phrase that accompanies it, we are all MOMS and we have got to stop attacking one another for practicing our beliefs. Even I am guilty of using the hashtag #breastisbest, when really breast is just best for my family. Formula may be best for yours and it is not my place to judge you for your decision. Ironically enough, I don’t even breastfeed as I’m an exclusive pumper and yet I’m participating in a hashtag that excludes my method in an effort to find some camaraderie online.
After speaking to several others who have fallen victim to mom on mom hate, I am on a mission to see to it that all moms are appreciated for all that they do for their families. I am declaring that All Moms Rule and I want you to join me in making that known! Help me by sharing Instagram photos, tweets, and Facebook status updates using the hashtag #allmomsrule. Share photos that represent the kind of mom you are; whether it be just a photo of you or your children or one that depicts your beliefs. Stand strong knowing that the #allmomsrule hashtag is a place to be celebrated for your parenting style, not to be criticized for it.
The one thing that we all have in common is that we love our children and every decision we make is with their best interest in mind. So, please, let’s stop attacking each other and start loving one another and remember that #allmomsrule!
Mommy My Way was founded on the idea that parenting is to be done in your own way. According to just about everyone I know, I have always done things the hard way. But whether it was hard or easy, it was always my way. There used to be a running joke in my family that Nikki was always right, and the truth is, I was always right when it came to making decisions for myself. I have always lived my life the way that I see fit in order to grow, learn and feel proud of myself; and motherhood is no different. Let’s be clear though, I don’t claim to be perfect. I screw up and I question myself and sometimes I don’t do what’s best in the long run; but just because it’s the hard way, doesn’t mean it’s wrong. I mommy my way, you mommy your way and they mommy their way, but we are all mommies. Please help me spread the #allmomsrule love.