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I let daycare potty train my toddler — and it worked in less than a week!

I let daycare potty train my toddler — and it worked in less than a week!

Potty training is hard. My 2.5 year old son has been showing signs of potty-training interest for more than a year, yet I couldn’t successful train him no matter what I tried. We attempted naked weekends, special prizes for successful potty trips, stickers, and more. […]

TTC acronyms so you can understand your support groups

TTC acronyms so you can understand your support groups

I recently joined a Facebook group called SMBC TTC …. in case you have no freaking clue what that means like I did at first, it means Single Mom By Choice Trying To Conceive. (Click this link if you’re interested in learning why I joined […]

Mommy and Son Date Night Ideas

Mommy and Son Date Night Ideas

One thing I’ve noticed is that Z and I get very antsy when we fall into a mundane routine. Wake up, get dressed, go to school, come home, watch TV, eat dinner, go to sleep. It’s not a bad routine, but it’s boring. We start to get easily annoyed with one another and both of our attitudes flare up. So to ease the tempers, I like to throw in surprise mommy and son date nights.

This week we enjoyed our mommy and me date night at Kona Grill and discovered fresh ingredients, made from scratch; the way it should be! (more…)

How to get my 2 year old to stop using a pacifier

How to get my 2 year old to stop using a pacifier

We were a hard-core pacifier house, ya’ll. I mean we LOVED that binky, both of us. A pacifier is such an easy way to calm your baby and offer soothing when you can’t always be there. We had the paci during wake times and nap times and […]

Coffee orders (and at-home brews) to get you through a few parenting firsts

Coffee orders (and at-home brews) to get you through a few parenting firsts

Coffee is the nectar of the Gods. This is not an opinion, my dear comrades, it’s fact. Whatever god, gods or goddesses you believe in or don’t, we can all agree that this sweet, sweet juice is what nudges us parents successfully from one day […]

Single mom by choice — why I’m considering sperm donation at 26 years old

Single mom by choice — why I’m considering sperm donation at 26 years old

My son and I just celebrated his second birthday on January 30. I’ve had baby fever something fierce for about 6 months now and the idea of waiting until I find the elusive “one” in order to have more children seems absurd. I’m ready to explore alternative options to becoming a mother again: to be a single mother by choice.

I have to admit that there is something very alluring and empowering about deciding to have a baby on my own terms. I’m not 100% sure I’m ready to go down this road, but I do know I’m ready to learn about the options available to me to grow my family, and here’s why I’m considering sperm donation even though I’m “only” 26 years old.

  1. I’m ready mentally

    I could end the post with just this one bullet point. Being ready for another baby is really the only reason that should matter. I have raised a very happy, healthy, smart, crazy active 2 year old completely on my own from the get go. Sure adding another to the mix would certainly shake things up for a while, as it would for any family considering another baby. But I am ready and capable to take on the added challenge.

  2. I feel more fulfilled as a mother than I have felt as a girlfriend in any relationship I’ve ever been in

    I know some women don’t define themselves solely by motherhood, but motherhood has always defined me. And you know what? I’m ok with that. People tell me motherhood looks good on me, and I truly feel the same. I’ve been in a string of crumby relationships since I was 14 years old; why do I need to wait around for Mr. Right in order to have another baby? I don’t.

    Sure, it would be great to meet The One and fall madly in love, but that feels more like a fictitious movie than reality. I’ve been single for 2 and a half years with only a handful of dates during that time-frame.

    I am so in love with my son and happy to be his mother that adding another love like this into my life on my own terms by having a baby sounds amazing and attainable.

  3. I have the financial means to do so

    I make a decent living between my full time career and blogging. I don’t feel strapped for cash and I have a wonderful support system in place now that I’ve moved closer to family. Sure, double daycare bills sounds scary but when I crunch the numbers, it’s not impossible.

  4. I want Z to experience siblings close in age and under similar circumstances

    Z was raised by a single mother. Z does not have a father in the picture. I would never ever want him to feel like he got the short end of the stick if I were to meet someone and have kids of our own one day many years in the future. Z would be much older than his other siblings and they would have a father in their lives. While I would never be with a man who didn’t make Z feel like he was also his son, the truth is Z will have lived many years without a father. And jealousy and feeling left out or “different” than his siblings are very real emotions that I would have little control over him feeling.

    But if I were to have another baby, or even multiple babies over the next few years, through artificial insemination and sperm donation, Z and his future siblings would all be closer in age and grow up in the same circumstances: raised by a single mother with no active father in the picture. It would all feel normal and the same for him because he wouldn’t have another situation in his immediate circle to compare it to.

    I know this point seems wrapped in a lot of vague “what ifs” but it is one of the major factors in my decision. It’s influencing my perspective more than anything else I’ve mentioned so far.

  5. I want another baby

    The most important point of all. I have baby fever something fierce and my ovaries are going to explode if I see one more adorable chunky babe. I want one of my own, as soon as possible.

There are still a lot of things I need to work out before I officially make the decision, but I’m at a place where I’m ready to explore artificial insemination as a real means for growing my family. Being 26 doesn’t matter because I’m ready.

I would love to hear from you if you’ve gone through IUI or sperm donation or if you’ve traveled down the road of single motherhood by choice through another method. Tell me about your journey in the comments or shoot me a message. What questions did you or do you have about the process, what obstacles did you run into along the way, how happy are you today with your decision? 

First Football Game – Miami Dolphins win against the 49ers

First Football Game – Miami Dolphins win against the 49ers

A few weeks back Z got to experience his very first NFL football game: Miami Dolphins vs 49ers! I was a little apprehensive about taking him to the game because I knew it would be a crazy long day, but overall he behaved incredibly well […]

Minimalist dining room wall art – DIY on a budget

Minimalist dining room wall art – DIY on a budget

One of my favorite mommy bloggers, Life as a Rambling Redhead, recently renovated her new home. Her kitchen is literally to die for. In it, she hung up this beautiful minimalist wall art that simply says “gather” in a scripty font. It’s gorgeous, but her framed […]

Choosing the right daycare for your toddler

Choosing the right daycare for your toddler

Back when I was preparing for maternity leave, I was on the hunt for the perfect daycare. I wanted video camera access, a high security facility, organic menu items. Well, wasn’t I the pickiest little first time mommy?! But how do you choose the right daycare for your toddler?

I was spoiled after my son’s first daycare experience. The facility and staff weren’t perfect, but boy were they close. The teachers were amazing, the facility was clean (by comparison) and the overall curriculum and menu provided were top notch. (more…)

5 Tips for buying a home — the second time around

5 Tips for buying a home — the second time around

The home-buying process this time around though is the polar opposite. It was a nightmare and caused weeks of stress and several crippling anxiety attacks. I will NOT be buying another home anytime soon because of this scenario and Z and I will live in this home until I get married one day in the far off distant future, and even then we might still live here.

Here are a few tips for buying a home — the second time around.